As of late, I've been really, really striving to do the best I can in being a good steward over my time, children, and homemaking. My heart's desire is to have an orderly home, orderly children, and a peaceful atmosphere. There are those days where I dream of being in a place where life is a bit simple....where I don't have modern technology like computers, tv, game systems trying to grab the attention of my children. I don't know why this is so easy to "default" to when a "break" is needed or when I need some "alone time" or just to gravitate towards that "entertainment" for the children when they cry out "I'm bored".
I gotta admit....I hate this about myself. I grew up watching television and being entertained by the world's ways. I don't want my children to desire these things but then again....I am allowing it!! You see...it's my fault....I am letting them entertain themselves with these gadgets. Now..... I am not saying that TV of itself is a bad thing. I think it is fine in moderation and yes, maybe even some video games , but all the time.......is not good! I'm sure many of you would agree.
The other day, I spent a wonderful time chatting to a wonderful friend of mine who I admire so much. She is younger than I and has younger children but she seems so wise above her years. I love chatting with her because I leave so encouraged. She does such a great job mothering her children and devoting much time to their growth and development. One thing she doesn't have or rarely does she let her children do is....watch tv or play video games. She fills their time with wholesome activities such as knitting, drawing, creating, crafting. Yes....all those lovely things many of us should do more of.
So in our conversation, she said this which I would love to share with you all:
All to often I think people have kids as side objects or cute things, almost as if they were a hobby...they want to keep their fancy lifestyle with all the bells and whistles of corporate or singlehood and have pretty little kids on the side.... instead I look at them more as a career....something that you take on that requires the best that you have for the time that you have them. I feel like it is our duty to give them the very best of every thing you can (and I certainly do not mean material goods) but of yourself, knowledge and home....that being said we will have the ultimate evaluation from our Lord one day and that is enough to make me strive my hardest each and every day to do my very best at this "career" I've chosen....although I always feel I fall short and every day I wish I would have done something or said (and sometimes not said something) differently....but that's what so wonderful about our Lord is he knows our hearts and he forgives us when we are wrong...So i guess mainly that we should put a lot more thought into what we do with our kids, how and what we teach them, what they are exposed to, how much time we give them of ourselves.....
And she definitely puts a lot of thought into what she does as a mother. I love this about my friend!
I loved what she said on being accountable to the Lord one day on how we raised our children and how and what we imparted. This should bring us all to our knees as we meditate and ponder on how our days are structured. When I come face to face with my Lord, I want to Him to say that I did what He wanted me to do. Meditating on this truth brings me to strive more and more to be the best steward I can possibly be for my children's sake. I have gifts that God has entrusted me with and I want to take good care of these little ones (no matter how big they are getting) to teach, train, and instruct them to become the best they can be in the eyes of God.
So dear ones, be encouraged to do your best today. If you mess up (and I do lots during the day...ha ha) God is so gentle as He leads us mothers. Even when the desire to turn the tv is so strong, choose to turn them onto a productive activity that will build their character and grow their intelligence. I have to remind myself this everyday. And trust me, I am preaching more to myself than anyone else....ha ha!
If you have anymore encouraging words as to how you manage without turning the tv on. Let me know. With the more children in the home, it sometimes can be an easy babysitter, especially when you are trying to get things done around the house or schooling the older kids. What do you do to keep the little ones "entertained" during those times? I would love to get some input and maybe do a post on it.
Ok...gotta run and care for my tribe!
PS...oh and I wanted to say remember there are seasons in your life where maybe you will do things you would have never thought you would dare do...but remember these are seasons. I am one to flip-flop in seasons. God knows my heart..... even when my life seems so overwhelming. Seasons are good and they teach us so, so much. So about this post on TV watching....yeah, those seasons come and go. There are seasons of NO tv and there are season where we watch to much PBS kids or Dora. ha ha!
Blessings to you all...